This week’s LIFEies is simple. Do not do things to yourself that make your life tougher. Reading the below piece will take 3 minutes but it could change your life.
Rule #7 from my book The Fantastic Life: Be Value Driven
This rule reinforces the fact that when you have clear intentions, whether in work or family, your instincts will sprout from your practiced values. Life isn’t about stopping and questioning yourself and your intentions, it’s about following your true instincts.
A co-worker said, “If you hate baloney so much, just ask your wife to make you something else.”
Jason replied, “That’s the problem. My wife didn’t make the sandwich. I did.”
Lots of people continually make their own baloney sandwiches and then act as victims when it’s time to eat them. It’s like the man who killed his parents and had the audacity to demand mercy because he was an orphan.
The baloney sandwich is a metaphor for things we do to ourselves that make our lives tougher. Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
For some, the problem is personal relationships. Thus, intelligent people driven by loneliness, sexual attraction, irrational romanticism, or a rescue mentality disregard their good sense and core values by repetitively getting involved with people who are bad for them.
Others have baloney sandwich jobs. They ignore their instincts and experience, thinking they can put up with unkind or dishonorable bosses or unfulfilling or demeaning jobs. Sooner or later, unhealthy relationships and unrewarding jobs will become intolerable.
Thomas Huxley said, “Logical consequences are the scarecrows of fools and the beacons of wise men.” In other words, every mistake can make us more afraid or wiser.
If you don’t like baloney sandwiches, take control of your life — identify the values that are really important to you and don’t compromise them.