Rule #1 of my book, The Fantastic Life , is to know your story. Knowing your story does not mean you have to relive it every day. Rather it means we get to build on our story and add to it each and every day.
If you don’t like a portion of your story, rewrite it in your head. Change your perspective. Change your life. I love Seth Godin, below is his perspective on this very topic.
What are you focusing on?
Rule #1 from my book The Fantastic Life: Know Your Stories
What is your story? What parts of your story are you proud of? Which parts are you not proud of? How are you working each and every day to change your story to be the one you want?
Depth of Field
By: Seth Godin
Focus is a choice.
The runner who is concentrating on how much his left toe hurts will be left in the dust by the runner who is focusing on winning.
Even if the winner’s toe hurts just as much.
Hurt, of course, is a matter of perception. Most of what we think about is.
We have a choice about where to aim the lens of our attention. We can relive past injustices, settle old grudges and nurse festering sores. We can imagine failure, build up its potential for destruction, calculate its odds. Or, we can imagine the generous outcomes we’re working on, feel gratitude for those that got us here and revel in the possibilities of what’s next.
The focus that comes automatically, our instinctual or cultural choice, that focus isn’t the only one that’s available. Of course it’s difficult to change it, which is why so few people manage to do so. But there’s no work that pays off better in the long run.
Your story is your story. But you don’t have to keep reminding yourself of your story, not if it doesn’t help you change it or the work you’re doing.