We raised 4 kids. They are all launched and doing great. There is a huge transition from having kids in the house to being an empty-nest parent. Below is a short article on the topic if you are in this process or it’s coming up.
–Life moves in seasons: Raising kids, guiding them, and eventually watching them launch into the world is one of the most rewarding chapters there is. Seeing them build their own lives is DAMN satisfying.
—Reconnect with your partner and friends: When the kids leave, you suddenly gain time back. Use it well. Try new things together, travel a little more, and reconnect with friends you may not have seen as much during the busy parenting years. It’s actually a pretty cool phase of life.
–Kids don’t leave—they just need you differently: Be open as the relationship changes. You go from daily guidance to being more of a sounding board, mentor, and supporter. Stay open to that shift. Some of the best conversations with your kids may actually happen once they are out on their own.
Parenting is hard. But there is a path, and it is wonderful when you have great children who are happy and doing well.
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The nest changing isn’t the end of your story. It’s a plot twist. And Fantastic Life Rule #1 says you don’t let the world write the next chapter for you. You choose it.
5 things to know when you open the door to an empty (or emptier) nest
By Kristen Strong
Hallmark
February 18, 2026
By Kristen Strong on February 18, 2026God promises us a wonderful future. Eventually, the changing nest will feel less new and more familiar. There is much good to look forward to in the years to come. And if you find yourself about to open the door to an empty (or emptier) nest, or it breaks your heart just a bit to think about the impending season, read on to be comforted and reassured.
Her face falls ever-so-slightly. “Yes, and I am not okay that my youngest—our baby girl—is starting kindergarten!”
I smile sympathetically, knowing full well the bittersweet stage this is. I smile because I know that just over fifteen years ago, I said the same thing when my own daughter, the youngest in our family, headed to kindergarten. It felt like a definitive end of a season for our family and the turning of a page towards a new chapter—one I wasn’t ready to embrace.
It felt like parenting’s first leap of letting go.
Last August, I experienced another, bigger leap of letting go when we dropped that same baby girl, Faith, off at college. That wasn’t our first rodeo of sending a kid to college. However, it was our first rodeo doing it with the baby of the family. And, unlike her older brothers, she chose to go to school out-of-state, and that fact brought another new-to-us layer to the transition.
When I returned home to Colorado after taking our daughter to college for the first time, I timidly walked into our entryway. Because it felt right as rain to do so, if not a little nonsensical, I called out “Hi, Faaaaaith! I’m home!” as I’d done many times before. Naturally, silence from the empty house answered me. And just as naturally, I dropped my bags, hung my head, and cried my eyes out.
And I secretly wondered if my best years were in my rearview mirror.
Today, a year later, I find my emotions have simmered down a good deal, and I don’t get nearly so teary over our baby bird flitting from the nest. Oh, it still happens from time to time because I do miss my kids’ daily presence. But the last year has shown me several encouraging truths that helped me through the transition.
So, if you find yourself about to open the door to an empty (or emptier) nest, or it breaks your heart just a bit to think about the impending season, I share the following to comfort and reassure you too:
1. The way you feel right now won’t be the way you feel forever. Your kiddo launched — it’s okay to have some sadness mixed into your emotions. Go ahead and feel the loss. One day, though, you will walk by your kid’s bedroom and not burst into tears. A new normal will set in and feel like home to your heart too.
2. You’ve probably missed teaching your kids stuff, and that’s okay. Listen, we all have! While teaching and mentoring opportunities will continue to arise, it’s also true that if a lesson is important enough for these kids to learn, they’ll learn about it in the school of life. Whether we’re the parents of 2-year-olds or 22-year-olds (or older kids still), God fills the gaps and gets our children where they’re supposed to be.
3. Your way of communicating with them will be different but good. “Doing life” with adult kids is like learning a new dance. You and I are likely to step on our kids’ toes (and vice versa!) as we learn the new steps. Yet, with open communication and an ever-ready willingness to apologize, you will get the steps down while enjoying their company.
4. Find your friends. Moms with grown kids need mom friends with grown kids—or friends who are sympathetic and understanding to this life stage. Period. Find them, make time for them, and feel like your pants fit better after talking with them.
5. Your kids will always need you. No, they won’t need you exactly as they have before, but you can bet your kid’s tuition payment that they’ll still need you (and not just for money). Their needs will just look different in this new season.
While it’s possible for a sentimental gal like me to romanticize the past, this last year has shown me how it’s possible to experience the future more fondly than I anticipate. And it’s no wonder, really, when we consider Ephesians 1:18 NLT:
I pray that your hearts will be flooded with light so that you can understand the confident hope he has given to those he called—his holy people who are his rich and glorious inheritance.
If you’re in the same life stage as me or within spitting distance of it, take heart: God promises us a wonderful future. Eventually, the changing nest will feel less new and more familiar. There is much good to look forward to in the years to come.
In the meantime, it’s my prayer that the Lord shows you tailor-made signs of His goodness here today. And tomorrow, may He show you that sure as the kids will bring their laundry home, good things exist beyond goodbyes.
Kristen, author of “Back Roads to Belonging” and “Girl Meets Change,” writes as a friend offering meaningful encouragement for each season of life so you can see it with hope instead of worry. She and her U.S. Air Force veteran husband have three children and live in Colorado.